I have made a decision to talk less.
After this past weekend with friends, I realized that I talk too much. My wife, who is much smarter and wiser than me, needs to get a word in edge-wise occasionally, too. Hopefully, she can from here on.
I need to listen more, and when I do speak I need to choose my words more carefully. Because it turns out that words are very important and shouldn’t be used indiscriminately. They’re powerful, and they can change everything.
Some people have had words spoken to them that have altered their lives forever. How many of us have heard “What are you thinking?” or “You’ll NEVER be able to ____ (fill in the blank). And for many, that was the end of pursuing their dreams. A new friend of mine, Ryan Rush, has a book that just published called ‘Walls’. He says walls are NOT our circumstances, they are the REACTION to our circumstances. Somebody hurts my feelings or discourages me, and I stop right there, progressing no further until I can hear something different. From someone.
It happens all the time. And the older you get, the more negative talk you seem to hear, from people who’ve either never tried to accomplish anything substantial or difficult, or from the ones who have tried and failed a time or two.
I’m blessed to have people around me who are realists, but who also think almost anything is doable. My team at Cave Henricks Communications is like that. We don’t look at the obstacles, we look at the hill and most of the time we take it together. My good friend Bob Beaudine says life would be so much more fun if we do something we love everyday with people we love. He’s right.
I’ve had a great life and more blessings than I deserve. But, I, like most people, have an unfulfilled dream or two. Music is one of those, songwriting in particular. I love my job promoting books and authors and ideas. But on my drive in to the office and back home in the afternoons, I hear music. Not on the radio, but in my head and heart. It’s a strange and wonderful gift that I absolutely do not take for granted. Over the years I’ve written probably 500 songs. I get a kick out of writing and submitting those songs to other artists to consider for their recordings. Someday, it will happen. I’m sure of it. I’ll be driving down the road and I’ll hear one of my songs on the radio.
In the meantime, I quiet all the voices I hear that say I’m too old, it’s too late, the business is changing, etc. And I sit down and write what’s in my heart, and it touches people, and they tell me about it.
It touches them because the right words in the right order and the right context delivered at just the right moment are powerful-either for good or for bad. I want to be an encourager. The world hears enough of the other stuff.
So, I plan to talk less. But, I hope to say more that matters….